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5 Dating Mistakes That Women Make With Men

2009-10-07T06:49:00.002-04:00

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By Michael Webb

Great men are hard to find. So when you find one,
don’t ruin your chances by making these deadly
mistakes. Remember, attractive men have dated a lot
of women so they know what’s going on. The result?
They’ll disappear before you realize you’ve done
anything wrong.

Here are 5 things that many women do that blow
their chances with their boyfriend, and how to avoid
them.

Mistake #1: Sharing your feelings with him too
early

Men love their freedom and independence no
mysteries there! So when you announce that you love
him, it often sets off a trigger that you might be
one of those “clingy types.” Remember that the
early stages of dating should always remain casual.

Only after you get to know each other really well
should you pursue anything further. It’s also worth
mentioning that you can’t logically convince
someone to fall in love with you. Falling in love
is a process that happens outside the conscious
mind remember that. Which brings me to…

Mistake #2: Trying to push it too far too soon

It’s natural to wonder about the nature of your
relationship, “Does he want more? Or is this just a
fling?” But remember, if you start talking about
marriage after only 12 months, you could ruin your
chances to take things further. And if you don’t
live together, cooking dinner or doing his laundry
isn’t a good idea.

A nice meal once in a while is okay, but don’t make it
a regular thing. Yes, it’s true, many men are scared of
commitment; but just because they don’t want it now,
doesn’t mean they don’t want to settle down. They
just need time.

Mistake #3: Being too available

You might think this is playing a mind game or
being manipulative, but putting your best side
forward is also manipulative.

Why? Because it’s done to get a desirable outcome.
This is simply a reminder to be who you were before
you met the man and continue to be that person,
rather than use trickery.

Remember that your busy, interesting and
fun life only has so much time for him, no matter
how much you like him. And remember, men love a
challenge, so this actually works in your favor.

Mistake #4: Not being yourself

Men love confident women with a strong sense of
self-worth. Unfortunately, women often try to guess
how the man wants them to act and try to
accommodate his mold, which leaves very little room
for your own personality to shine. (And yes, men do
this too.) In other words, they love her strength.
It’s very attractive.

Mistake #5: Appealing to his sexual side too much

Believe it or not, it’s NOT make-up, dyed hair,
pretty clothes or even nice shoes that attract men,
not into a successful long-term relationships
anyway! While “looks” is the obvious factor that
seems to get an instant response from men,
long-term success comes with finding a man who
admires and respects you regardless of your
exterior. If your man only likes you for your
looks, then he doesn’t really love you.

So there you have it. The 5 big mistakes that women
make while they’re dating men. Avoid these mistakes
and you’ll dramatically increase the chances of
succeeding with him.

About the Author:

Michael Webb's latest book, "Getting Him Back"
provides you with a step-by-step plan to get your
ex back, help heal relationships and even prevent a
breakup. For all the details, visit
http://www.gettinghimback.com

7 Ways To Rekindle His Interest In You and Your Relationship

2009-10-06T20:44:00.000-04:00

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By Michael Webb

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t
have the magic and romance that it once had? Scared
this may affect or eventually end your
relationship?

You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for
a long time can become stable and comfortable, and,
as a result, can also cause the loss of the spark
that made your relationship so special in the first
place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas
to reignite that magic:

1. Send them a unique gift at work.

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a
bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two
stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your
two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I
Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal
envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a
formal address label of your partner's workplace,
such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention
of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith
Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so
they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. Become kids again.

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and
give your partner a ride. This will often bring
back happy memories from their childhood.

3. Fun with water.

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols
and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out
and throw one to your partner and then have a huge
water fight.

4. Bring back childhood memories.

Contact your partner's family and ask if there was
anything she always wanted when she was a little
girl. For example, if she always wanted a porcelain
doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only
appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you
were thoughtful enough to find out what she always
wanted. You can do this for your man too.

5. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s
night.

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get
together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie
down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up
at the stars together.

6. Show you’re grateful for your partner.

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find
it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming
into my life."

7. Spice up your lovemaking.

Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make
love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a
sensual massage before or after, or just spend some
time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their
bare skin before making love.

So there you have it 7 ways to add more passion
and excitement to your relationship starting right away.

About the Author:

Michael Webb's latest book, "Getting Him Back"
provides you with a step-by-step plan to get your
ex back, help heal relationships and even prevent a
breakup. For all the details, visit
http://www.gettinghimback.com/

Women: 5 Ways To Save Your Marriage

2009-10-06T10:29:00.000-04:00

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By Michael Webb

Is your marriage in trouble? No matter how bad,
there’s always hope and ways to turn your situation
around. Here are five common ways to help create a
better, more loving and harmonious relationship
with your husband.

1. Handle arguments differently

Every marriage and relationship has arguments, but
it's how you handle them that's most important. At
Junior High School, I said 'no' to drugs. At my
wedding altar, I said 'no' to fighting.

Nancy Reagan's "Just Say No" anti-drug campaign was a
huge success. Kids made a verbal commitment and a
mental stance to avoid drugs before they were even
of the age to be tempted. When they were introduced
to drugs, they knew they could "just say no" and
not feel alone. Fighting is NOT harmless. It’s
addictive and, if continued, is likely to cause
irreparable damage. Certainly there are times when
emotions get wrinkled, and the natural inclination
is to blow your top. I sometimes have to bite my
tongue so I don't say something I would regret
later (since when is self-control a bad thing?)

Having a naturally calm personality has admittedly
made it easier for me to think before I speak than
it is for some people. But that shouldn't stop
anyone from trying.

2. How to make him listen

In most relationships, a polite and sincere request
gets much greater results than if you yell, nag or
complain.

For example, the other day Athena saw my
bath towel on the middle of our bedroom floor. She
said "you might want to hang up your towel or it
won't dry out in time for your shower tomorrow."
When my clothes pile up outside of the hamper, she
sweetly says, "it would really help me out a lot if
you put your dirty clothes in the hamper."

She was exhausted one morning and when Ashton (then
five months old) began to stir, she turned over to me
and asked if I wanted to "get up and have a little
morning playtime with Ashton." That was a much
nicer way of asking me to help her out than saying,
"Why am I the one who always gets up early to take
care of YOUR son? I think it is YOUR turn for a
change."

Athena always thinks of nice ways to ask me to help
out or to stop doing something irritating.

3. Turn gossip and bashing into praise

No one's perfect. When wives get together and the
conversation turns to complaining about “what their
husbands do,” or male bashing in general, refuse to
participate.

It shows that you respect and value your husband.

For a man, few things are more devastating than to
have his wife criticize him in front of friends. Instead,
when a "gripe session" gets going, make it a point to
start sharing some of his good qualities. Usually, this
alone will steer the conversation into a positive direction
and help your friends to also praise their husbands
-- which in turn helps them to respect and
appreciate them more too.

Knowing that my wife refuses to belittle me in front of
friends makes me love and respect her even more.

4. Change your routine of life

After a few months or years, most couples get into
a comfortable pattern where they always do the same
things. Same dinner / movie dates, same sexual
routine and same behaviors. You can rekindle some
of that magic and keep your marriage magical by
simply paying attention to these three important
areas:

1. Go on creative dates - agree to go out and do
something you've never done before once every week,
fortnight or month. It doesn't really matter what
you do, but it's important to commit and do this
constantly. Want some ideas? Go to a winery,
museum, art gallery, carnival, the beach, or have a
picnic in a park.

2. Spice things up under the sheets - try a new
position, technique or location. Wear some nice
lingerie or introduce some new toys into the
bedroom.

3. Change up the norm - buy him a gift just to say
“I love you," give him a surprise quickie before
work, a nice massage, set up a scavenger hunt that
shows how much you care about him with a gift at
the end.

5. Face your money issues and debts

One of the biggest problems facing couples today is
the huge amount of debt they bring into their
marriage. Not only are there more divorces, couples
are calling it quits much earlier in their marriage
than ever before. Here are some ideas to get your
debt and money issues under control.

1. Sit down and prioritize all aspects of your
family budget together. Only when you analyze your
spending habits will you fully realize where you
are wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talk
about your goals and dreams.

2. Realize that frivolously spending money can be a
sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.

3. If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a
fancier car, ask yourself why.

4. Take a quick inventory of all the items you own
but could really live without. Consider how much
you paid for them. What if you didn't buy those
items and had all that money in savings instead?
Would it make a difference in how you view your
job, your family and your future?

About the Author:

Michael Webb's latest book, "Getting Him Back"
provides you with a step-by-step plan to get your
ex-husband back, help heal your marriage and even
prevent a divorce. For all the details,
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“Where Did I Go Wrong”?

2009-10-05T20:47:00.000-04:00

So, after dating “Mr. Right” for several months, you thought you had found your “forever man,” your “knight in shining armor.” You loved the same food, laughed at the same jokes and were great together in bed. You were positive he was going to say the “L” word at any moment. Then, suddenly, he stopped calling. At first you were shocked, then sad and then angry. You can’t believe you were so naïve, so easy. And you can’t stop replaying the whole scenario in your mind and asking what went wrong? What should you have done differently? And most of all, how could he do this to you?

You try to remember your last date, the last time you made love and the last conversation. You continue to ask yourself over and over, “was I too needy, were my breasts too small, or my thighs too big? Was I not a good enough lover, not attentive enough, too old or too young?” And on and on until you think you may be going insane.

You call your girlfriends and hash it over and over until you just can’t stand yourself anymore, and your girlfriends are tired of hearing about it too. But all of you agree that it wasn’t you. You are beautiful, smart and funny. So, if it wasn’t you, then the issues must have been with him. Yes, he must have some sort of psychological issues, or perhaps he is a drug addict. Maybe the Mafia is after him, or he’s gay. Yes, that must be it. After all, he seemed so sensitive and he enjoyed romantic movies, didn’t he? Then you decide he’s not gay, so it must have been that he was married and separated from his wife. Yes, married with three children who needed him.

You call your girlfriends back to go over these new scenarios, over and over and over. If he’s not married, you discuss the possibilities of trying to get him back. Should you call him, show up at his work or follow him?
You decide not to give in because you desperately want him back, or at least want to know why he dumped you. You continue to devise plans to get him back but nothing seems to be working. If only you knew what to do.

If this is your situation, then you are fortunate, because now you can learn exactly what to do to bring your man back into your life. Bob Grant, L.P.C., has written a powerful e-book "How Do I Get Him Back," that will show you exactly how to act, when to call and what he’s thinking while you are apart. Follow his plan to the letter and you’ll have him back in your life, guaranteed. You can find this plan by simply clicking here.

Surviving A Breakup... A Simple Strategy That Always Works

2009-10-05T10:37:00.000-04:00

by George Karanastasis, M.D.

It's a universal fact that surviving a breakup is no simple task. And this goes double if you're on the receiving end of it. The pain and shattered self esteem that go hand in hand with this unfortunate event can be so intense as to send even the toughest guys spinning into a frenzy.

And if you take a second to think about it, the reaction is logical: one day she's here, she's yours… the next she's gone. It's a major loss that leaves you with a void that only she can fill.

But why do we go as far as calling it "surviving a breakup"? Has anyone ever died from it? Probably not… but there's still a good reason for bringing such a dramatic word into the equation. Because while it's not an issue of survival in a literal sense and you're not fighting for you life… what you are fighting for is your sanity.

Why?

Because losing a girlfriend to a breakup is similar to losing a family member to death as far as feelings are concerned. But here's one important difference between the two: in the latter situation your family member doesn't choose to leave you – it just happens. But in the former, your loss is directly attributable to choice – her's.

And that's why your sanity is put to the test. Because it's the ultimate form of rejection. And whenever someone gets rejected they want that somebody that much more and will drive themselves crazy while entertaining the possibility of getting them back. It's like a junkie looking for their late night fix and going out of their minds because they can't find it.

So how do you deal with this? How do you go about getting over a breakup while saving your sanity? It's actually not as difficult as you'd imagine.

And while there's a lot of advice floating around as to how one should proceed in this case, there's only one correct approach as far as I'm concerned: to keep a realistic viewpoint on the situation.

What does this mean?

Simple… You take the relationship for what it truly is (or was for that matter) and you think about it along those lines. Here's an exercise I've used in the past to help me through this and I'm inviting you to follow along right now:

Take out a blank sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle
Write down the words "Positives" and "Negatives" at the top of each column
Now list as many positives and negatives about your relationship with this girl

Just remember to be honest with yourself here. Take the time to reflect on every aspect of your relationship. Remember that nobody's perfect: I'm not, you're not, and neither is she. That's why it's impossible to have had a perfect relationship and there's certain to be plenty of negatives to go with the positives in your list.

But why is this simple exercise so important?

Because what you're ultimately trying to accomplish here is balance the positives with the negatives and bring them to the forefront of your thoughts. It is only when all the facts are staring you in the face that you'll be able to look at your situation from a logical point of view rather than one of desperation.

And the next time the thought crosses your mind (and it will) that this is the only girl for you and there's no other in this world that can match her perfection… refer back to that list you just wrote.

Because whatever your agenda may be (to get over her, to get her back, etc.) this is the first step to achieving your goal, as simple as it may seem. This will force you to think logically and accordingly and that will take you a long way towards surviving a breakup and figuring out your next move.

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“Why Doesn’t He Love Me Anymore?”

2009-10-04T23:32:00.000-04:00

The man of your dreams, the love of your life, just walked out the door and you have no idea why.
Somewhere between the main course and the dessert, he had a change of heart.
The two of you were madly in love and planning to get married within the next year, but now he’s gone.
Although you had noticed a change in his demeanor over the last few months, you chalked it up to his stressful job and the long hours he spent at the office. He used to be such a positive person, but recently he had become extremely critical of everything you said and did. The man you knew, the happy-go-lucky individual you fell in love with, seemingly changed overnight. Suddenly, it felt as if you were living with a total stranger.

And then, with no explanation, he walked out the door, saying only that “it was over.” The following week, while you were at work, he came over and collected his things, and you haven’t heard from him since. You feel as if a part of you has died and that you’ll never heal because there has been no closure. You just cannot understand why he couldn’t, or wouldn’t, tell you the truth about why he left. Anything would be better than him just walking away with no explanation. After all, doesn’t he owe you at least that much?

Of course you continue to wrack your brain trying to understand what it is that you did to make him turn away from you. You promise yourself you won’t chase him, plead, beg or even contact him. However, after several days, you miss him so much that you just want to hear his voice, even if it’s just his voicemail message. But you can’t control your feelings and when you hear his message, you break down crying and beg him to call you. When he doesn’t call you back, you start calling his family and friends who seem nervous and won’t say much except that he’s okay and that he just needs some space. They tell you to be patient, yet waiting seems like the hardest thing to do.

What you need is a plan. Thankfully just such a plan exists and it’s available at www.howdoIgethimback.com. But you need to know that time is of the essence. If you wait too long, your relationship could be over for good and you’ll never know what might have been. You don’t have to just wait, when you could start your plan by clicking here. . .

“Why Men Get Back Together With Their Exes”

2009-10-04T14:20:00.000-04:00

Since men do not find it as easy to articulate their feelings as women do, it can be hard to know exactly what they are thinking. Oftentimes, rather than talking things out, a man will walk away from a relationship for seemingly no reason. In his mind, however, he knows exactly why he broke it off.

The woman he had been seeing for almost a year may have thought that everything was going along great and that he was surely falling in love with her, even though he never told her as much. After all, he was a man of few words, but she believed that his actions spoke volumes. He was attentive, affectionate and good to her. She assumed that the relationship would blossom and someday lead to marriage even though he never talked about commitment.

So when he left, she was shocked and saddened. Even though she wasn’t sure exactly why he left, she had an idea. Recently, she had brought up the subject of marriage and children to him. She mentioned that she wasn’t getting any younger and that her biological clock was starting to tick louder and louder. She also had mentioned that an old boyfriend, now divorced, had begun e-mailing her. Looking back, she can see how he may have felt like he was being backed into a corner.

After he left, and she had some time to think it all through, she decided that it was for the best. She does want to have children some day and she won’t waste another minute with a man who can’t return her love. And, if he wants her back, he is going to have to make the first move. After all, she has her pride and doesn’t even want him back if he cannot commit to a “forever” relationship. Her fears tell her to tell him as much in an e-mail, but she holds back. Even though all of her girlfriends have told her they would send such a message, she has decided to follow a plan. One that was created by a man and speaks to a man’s heart. In following this process it seems strange and counterintuitive. Why, if she acted this way to a woman it might seem strange, but she has decided that a man would best understand men and thus she continues for one week and then another.

As the weeks go by, her fears rise at times, telling her that all is lost. Call him, plead with him to come back, promise him anything are the constant thoughts that plague her and yet, somehow, she continues her plan until that day when he does call and she is grateful she did not give into her fears. His voice sounds different with an air of kindness, which in the following weeks lead to a reconciliation. “Thank goodness I found that plan,” she says to herself. Where can you find her plan? Simply click here…

“What To Do? Try To Get Him Back or Forget Him?”

2009-10-03T14:12:00.000-04:00

You’ve had your heart broken in the past and promised yourself you would never, ever be in that position again. And since then, you have been very careful not to feel too much or give too much of yourself to any man. For you know, all too well, how much it hurts when the love is not returned.

But somehow this one slipped into your heart when your guard was down. And, once again, you find yourself madly in love.

But how could you have known it would happen again? He was so attentive, showered you with gifts and took you to all the best restaurants. You seemed perfect for one another. You liked the same movies, laughed at the same jokes and even shared similar hobbies. Perhaps that was when you should have listened to the warning sirens going off in your head that said, “if he seems too good to be true…..”

But you hoped and prayed this time things would be different and that he would be the one. Your “knight in shining armor,” the person you could spend the rest of your life with.

Looking back now, you wonder if there were any signs that you missed. A sign that he was unhappy or perhaps that he had met someone else. You have been wracking your brain, unable to sleep or eat, wondering what you did wrong, or didn’t do right. What you could have said or should have said to make him happy. But you will never know, because he won’t talk to you and he won’t return your e-mails.

So, what do you do? You do what you always do. You gather up your girlfriends and go over and over everything you can think of in order to get this man back. You devise all sorts of plans such as showing up at his work, at lunch time, in nothing but a trench coat. After all, you have lost fifteen pounds since he dumped you. Or, you still have the key to his house, so perhaps he’ll find you in his bed waiting for him when he gets home after work.

Then you ask yourself, “Do I really want him back? If he was such a great person, how could he have done what he did to me?” Perhaps even your friends are telling you that you really need to just let it go.

But if you were honest with yourself, wouldn’t you like just one more chance with him? If so, there is hope. You can rekindle your relationship using Bob Grant’s plan for saving relationships, even after a breakup. “How Do I Get Him Back” is a powerful plan for healing a relationship that has just ended, and it shows women exactly what to do that will cause their man to want to get back together. Does this sound too good to be true? Well, I can understand why you might be skeptical, but you don’t have to take my word for it. You can see for yourself by clicking here.

How To Stop A Breakup - The 5 Simple Steps To Saving Your Relationship

2009-10-03T02:09:00.001-04:00

by George Karanastasis, M.D.

People break up every day. It’s a fact of life. But here’s another fact… in the majority of cases these relationships can be saved (and it’s much easier than you’d imagine). All that’s required is a strong desire to do so, a healthy dose of patience, and a plan that’s easy to follow and even easier to stick to. The purpose of this post is to give you a simple, yet highly effective 5-step strategy on how to stop your breakup so you can turn a fading relationship into a stronger, happier, and everlasting one.

The first of these five steps is to identify your faults in the relationship. In other words, what specific actions (or inactions) are you personally responsible for that drove it downhill? And while one person is never entirely to blame for causing a breakup, there are sure to be some things that you could hold yourself fully accountable for.

The second step is to create a plan of action to correct those faults immediately. Every second counts when you’re trying to stop a breakup because you never know when the “bomb is going to drop”. And it’s much easier to save a relationship than to start over altogether.

The third step is to take those faults and write them down on a piece of paper. Next, you should write a short description of how you’ll go about correcting them. Keep this brief and to the point and above all, maintain clarity (you’ll see why in the next step).

The fourth step is to take this paper that has now become a written plan and present it to your girlfriend (or wife). Make sure you do this in person. Find a time when she’s most receptive to hearing what you have to say and meet her to make your intentions known to her.

The fifth and final step is to act on your plan immediately… and stick to it! Again, every second counts when trying to avoid this breakup but from the moment you present your plan it counts that much more. Why? Because by presenting your “case” you’re making her a promise. And if you fail to follow through on this promise the breakup will be just around the corner.

Those are the five simple steps that form an overall strategy on how to stop a breakup. But don’t be fooled by their simplicity. Because when properly executed they form the foundation that holds all successful relationship together: a promise and the actions that follow through on that promise.

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How To Repair A Relationship: Lessons Learned From The Discovery Channel...

2009-10-02T13:58:00.001-04:00

by George Karanastasis, M.D.

Men and women are different in many respects but when it comes to relationships those differences become much more pronounced. And while one might argue that these distinctions are directly to blame for “unhappy endings”, they can in turn be used to repair a relationship if rightly understood. The purpose of this article is to point them out, explain why they exist, and how you can effectively leverage them when attempting to repair your own relationship.

First, let’s establish the main difference between men and women and what they seek out in relationships. By nature, when a girl gets together with a guy she’s looking for security. And I’m not referring to financial security (although in many instances this very well could be the case). What I am referring to is the confidence in knowing that she and her offspring will be taken care of. And it doesn’t matter if the thought of babies has never crossed her mind at this point in her life.

Why?

Because whether it’s a conscious thought or not… it’s an instinctual determinant for selecting a partner, nonetheless. This is the way that nature genetically wired women to behave. They seek out dominant males that can ensure the successful propagation of their genes. Don’t believe me? Just spend an afternoon watching the Discovery Channel to see how valid this statement is.

So with this in mind it’s easy to understand what men seek out in relationships: to provide security for their partners. Again, and just like with women, this may not be in the forefront of a guy’s thoughts when selecting his “mate” but it is his own specific motivator for getting with a girl, nonetheless.

So how does all of this fit into relationship repair? It’s simple: if women are seeking security in their relationships then men must strive to provide it. And if your relationship is in need of repair then you must to take a moment to think about all the ways you might have failed to do so and what steps are necessary to correct this.

For instance, if your girlfriend is about to leave you then attempting to persuade her to stay will not work. Why? Because it’s an act of desperation that screams of insecurity. However, if every one of your actions is geared towards gaining her confidence that you’re not only willing to provide security but completely capable of doing so, you’ll have much more success in repairing your relationship.

Here are some examples of this:

Making it known to her (not verbally but through actions) that you don’t need her in your life – you simply want her
Showing her that you’re in complete control of your financial future (and security) through responsible spending habits
Instilling trust in her that you’re highly committed to her by having a well thought- out plan for the outcome of the relationship

So in conclusion, while the sexes are different when it comes to unions, these differences can be used to a man’s advantage to both repair a relationship and make it into stronger, everlasting bond. All that’s required is a little insight into the driving forces that bring two people together and the underlying factors that ultimately make them “stick”.

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“What Happened?”

2009-10-02T01:00:00.001-04:00

Several months ago you were introduced to a great guy at a party given by a friend. You spent the entire evening talking, laughing and dancing. He took your number, promised to call you, and he did.
You spent the next six weeks having a fabulous time together. You found that you and Mr. Wonderful enjoyed many of the same things. You had the same taste in movies, liked the same music and had similar beliefs.
Everything between you seemed idyllic and you believed that you had finally met “the one.” He seemed perfect for you in every way and you were sure he was falling in love with you.

But then you started to notice a subtle change begin to take place. Instead of calling you every night, he started calling only once or twice a week. And, if you called him, oftentimes he didn’t pick up. Then the week came when he didn’t call at all. It was the first weekend the two of you hadn’t spent together in weeks and you cried yourself to sleep wondering what happened.

When you finally reached him on Sunday evening, he seemed a little distant but happy to hear from you. He never said where he had been or why the two of you weren’t together, and you were too afraid to ask. You ended the call and haven’t heard from him since. That was two weeks ago and you are at your wit’s end.
Your mind is like a tape recorder replaying your last date, the last time you made love and your last phone conversation. What did you do or say wrong and how could he just disappear? How could he drop out of your life and hurt you like this without an explanation? You begin to panic as you go over and over in your mind what you did wrong, didn’t do right or could have done differently.

You feel like the walking dead and wish you had never met him in the first place. You vow that you will never, ever get involved again. You decide you may even give up men altogether and join a convent. You fear your heart will never heal and you will be alone for the rest of your life; and yet, if you’re like most women, you’d like just one more chance to find out if this relationship could be saved.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there were a plan that could bring him back into your life? Thankfully there is and it’s available right now! “How Do I Get Him Back” is a wonderful e-book that was written by Bob Grant, L.P.C., to help women understand exactly what they must do to bring their man back into their lives. If you want just one more chance to see if your relationship is worth saving, then go here to get this powerful plan that has worked for hundreds of women.

Her Break Up Reasons: Is She Simply Testing You?

2009-10-01T12:15:00.000-04:00

by George Karanastasis, M.D.

There are many reasons a girl breaks up with a guy. And in the majority of cases her intentions are quite clear: she just wants “out” because this whole ordeal is not living up to her expectations. However, no matter how cut and dry a woman’s motives may appear there is one specific reason to be singled out before calling it quits: is she putting you through “the test”? And if she is… how can you make sure that you pass?

Well first we need to define what exactly is this “test” that I’m referring to. In the simplest of descriptions it’s a woman’s way of telling a guy that it’s either time for him to step things up or time for him to get lost… an indirect “all or nothing” proposition if you will. What does this mean? To be blunt: she wants a solid commitment (engagement/marriage).

So how can you be sure that her break up reasons are simply part of a test? Actually, it’s not that difficult. All you need to do is take 3 things into consideration:

The length of the relationship
Her age
The marital status of her closest friends and immediate family members (e.g. sisters)

For example, if you’ve been together for several years (2-5 or more) and you’re in your mid-20’s to mid-30’s then it’s very possible that the reason she broke up with you is simply to “shock” you into commitment.

Another thing to consider: is she in her early thirties? Because many single women naturally panic at this point in their lives because their biological clocks are ticking. They want to get married and have babies.

And finally, if the majority of her girlfriends are either married or engaged to be married but she’s still single… it should be painfully obvious to you that she wants to “jump on the bandwagon”.

So let’s say your relationship circumstances fit the above criteria (more or less) and you’ve concluded that her break up reasons were nothing more than a test. How to proceed with getting her back?

Simple… give her wants she wants but give it to her tactfully. The first thing you should do is confront her. Tell her that you realize why she broke up with you and that you’re ready to settle down – but set a strict date. Don’t leave things up in the air or you’ll soon give her yet another reason to break up.

If she accepts… great… mission accomplished. However, if she refuses your proposal don’t go giving up hope just yet. Understand that it will take some time to both get her to trust in your seriousness to commit and to overcome her shattered sense of pride (after all you’ve rejected her in one way or another). But with a healthy dose of patience and steady steps in the right direction you will eventually be able to wear down her resistance and turn her break up reasons into nothing more than faint memory of the past.

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How To Get Her Back... The Starting Points Of Any Relationship Repair Strategy

2009-09-30T21:45:00.000-04:00

by George Karanastasis, M.D.

If you’re currently going through a breakup and don’t know how to get her back then let me help you get started on the right foot. Before you can even think of planning a relationship repair strategy you must take into account the following four factors:

The length of the relationship
The exact time since the breakup occurred
The reason for the breakup
The sequence of events that occurred since the breakup (e.g. mistakes you’ve made and her reactions to them)

Now why is it so important to take the above into consideration first before attempting to get her back? It’s quite simple actually: these are the exact 4 factors that will determine your unique strategy for getting your girl back from this moment forward.

Because no matter what anyone tells you… every relationship is different. What worked for someone else won’t necessarily work for you. So while you can’t take a “canned approach” with your particular case… what you can (and should) do is take your current circumstances and use them to formulate a strategy that maximizes your chances of success.

For example, the length of the relationship… why is this so important? Because this defines how fast you must act to win her back and how much leeway you have with making mistakes. As a general rule of thumb, the longer the relationship was the more you can afford to step back and let time take its healing role without fear of losing her altogether. In contrast, if you’ve only been dating for a couple of weeks then giving her 3 months of space will not help your situation much.

Next, why is the time since the breakup so important? Because time works directly against you when you’re trying to get her back. So the shorter relationship was the faster you must put your strategy in place.

Next, the reason for the breakup… did she break up with you because you were too needy or because you didn’t pay her enough attention? Why is this important? Because it determines how aggressively you should pursue her.

For example, if your breakup resulted from not giving her enough attention and you haven’t made the classic mistake of begging her back, then you need to actively attempt to solve your differences. However, if neediness on your part was the culprit in ending your relationship then backing off is the approach of choice.

And finally, the events that occurred since the breakup… these are everything from errors made on your part (begging, pleading, etc.) to steps she’s taken towards getting back together; in general they’re the circumstances that take your relationship and make it completely different from everybody else’s.

And while attempting to cover these events is beyond the scope of this article keep one thing in mind: never try to “reinvent the wheel”. If something is working for you or has worked in the past then use it as part of your strategy. If not, then dump it and take the opposite approach.

So in conclusion, no matter how unique your particular breakup scenario is, it’s more than possible to come up with an effective strategy on how to get her back by taking the 4 starting points and putting them together to maximize your chances of success.

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How to Get Your Ex Back and Keep Your Dignity

2009-09-17T02:31:00.001-04:00

Have you ever wondered how to get your ex back without humiliating yourself? Well this guide will tell you just how to do that.

Steps

Get your head and your emotions under control. Don't run around doing things that will not help you come to terms with the breakup: trying to see your ex, calling your ex, when they want to be left alone? Instead take your deepest breath and make yourself stop.
Give yourself some quality time on your own, which means no contact whatsoever with your ex. Remember your dignity is important and you will elevate your self-esteem and stand you in good stead for when you're ready to get your ex back. This is the time when you look after you.
Reconnect with your family and friends. If in the past your time has been spent with your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband then now is the time that you spend time with the other people in your life.
Go out and enjoy yourself and make sure you're not spending night after night sat at home obsessing about your ex.
After a few weeks on your own, you're ready to talk to your ex about a reconciliation. Call your ex and ask for a meeting.
Meet your ex somewhere neutral and public.
Explain your thoughts and feelings, without begging and crying, and if you have stuff to apologize for, then do so.
Give your ex a chance to say whatever they might want to say and listen.
Ask your ex for another chance and then tell them that you're going to give them some time to think things over.
Go home and wait for the call from your ex telling you what they have decided.

Tips

Take as much time over the first few steps as you need. Don't rush to get through them.
Keep yourself busy, especially when you're doing No Contact.
The more you look after yourself diet and health wise the better you will feel and the easy it will be to make decisions that help you hold onto your dignity.

Warnings

If there has been physical or verbal abuse in a relationship, don't attempt to rekindle it.
Make sure your REALLY want your ex back. If it's about ego, forget it!

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10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship

2009-09-15T03:02:00.005-04:00

By Michael Webb

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t
have the magic and romance that it once had?

You’re not alone.

Living with the same partner for a long time can
become stable and comfortable, and, as a result,
can also kill the spark that made your relationship
so special in the first place.

Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to
reignite that magic:

1. SEND THEM A UNIQUE GIFT

Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a
bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two
stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your
two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I
Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal
envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a
formal address label of your partner's workplace,
such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention
of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith
Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so
they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. BECOME KIDS AGAIN

If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and
give your partner a ride. This will often bring
back happy memories from their childhood.

3. FUN WITH WATER

On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols
and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out
and throw one to your partner and then have a huge
water fight.

4. A MASSAGE WITH A TWIST

Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of
colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank
card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the
massage oil in the box and write the following
message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an
appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. BRING BACK CHILDHOOD MEMORIES

Contact your partner's family and ask if there was
anything she always wanted when she was a little
girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain
doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only
appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you
were thoughtful enough to find out what she always
wanted. You can do this for your man too.

6. STARE AT THE CLOUDS

Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie
with your partner and look up at the clouds.

7. WALK ALONG THE BEACH

Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the
sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner
as you watch the sun go down.

8. ORGANIZE A PICNIC ON A WARM SUMMER’S NIGHT

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get
together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie
down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up
at the stars together.

9. SHOW YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR PARTNER

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find
it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming
into my life."

10. SPICE UP YOUR LOVEMAKING

Probably the most profound way to rekindle the
romance in your relationship is to spice up your
lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little
gift after you make love, try a new position, learn
to give your partner a sensual massage before or
after, or just spend some time staring into each
other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before
making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and
intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you
spice it up, chances are you and your partner will
naturally do romantic things for each other. Why?
Because passionate lovemaking connects two people
in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing
else can.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500
Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up
your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and
intimacy to your experience.

How to Win an Ex Back

2009-09-13T16:01:00.000-04:00

How to Win an Ex Back

Three powerful and time tested strategies to win an ex back and bring back happiness to your life

Steps

Take a good look at yourself: When you first fall in love with your partner, what type of a person were you? In the first place, your partner was attracted to you because he/she feels good about you, and you were fulfilling his/her emotional needs. Sure enough when a partner strays, others will tell you ‘people change'. However, I want you to take a moment and think “Have I changed?” Be that person whom your partner was once deeply in love with. Your partner strays because his/her needs are not fulfilled. Think of what you can do to save the relationship. Correct bad habits and mistakes, if any. Remember, you have to change in order for the external world to change.
Do not stick to your partner like glue: Practice detachment. Never show your desperation and craving no matter how bad you want him/her back. This will only make your situation worse. Make sure you don’t make it seem like you want him/her back. Be a carefree and independent person. As mentioned earlier, you must be able to give her true and unconditional love no matter what happens. At the same time, cultivate the hobbies and attitude as such that you are fully responsible for your own's happiness. You really do not need to depend on another person to experience happiness and peace. If you learn to cultivate this pattern, you will realize that your lover will be the one who is scared of losing you!
Do not stop them from seeing other people: If you start to complain, cry and whine, that you will instantly drive him/her away to that third party! Human nature is as such that the more you stop them from having something, the more they want it! On the other hand, respect his/her choices and freedom. Do not let jealousy set in. Let them do whatever they please and let them know that you will always be there. Soon they will realize that you are a better person than your rivals as you respect them more than anyone else does.

Tips

Go out and take a breather. Staying at home and thinking of the breakup will not help you win back your ex.
Spend some time to analyze the situation and find out the reasons that caused the breakup.
Do not beg your ex to come back.
Change any bad habits that you have.
Do not try to change, manipulate, force, threaten and restrict him/her;
You must be able to give true and unconditional love to him/her no matter what happen;
Respect his/her choices;
Remember what happened to cause you two to break up and don't let it happen again. If you broke up because one of you were jealous, show him/her that things have changed and that you have more trust in him/her.
You can't really control other people, so don't try too hard
Give up and face reality if its not working.
If your ex was the one to end the relationship then it is likely that they won't want you back so try just being friends and maybe in the future they may change their mind, don't push it

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